~ Kim Kiyosaki ~
No one and no thing is more important than you. Not ~you children, your spouse or partner, you religion or your mission in life.
What is your reaction to that statement?
“Heresy!” Some of you might say. “How selfish is that?” “How arrogant!”
Not really. When you make some one or some thing more important than you – your religion, your children, your spouse, or even your life’s purpose, then you allow that person or that thing to have control over “you.” You give that person or thing power over you. You lose a piece of you to whatever you concede the power to. Granted, all these things may be extremely important to you but they are not more important than you, the being.
When I made this statement recently to a group of women, one woman commented, “I would sacrifice my own life for my children’s!” I am sure she would, as I bet most mothers would. However, that does not mean that you – your spiritual self – are less important than your children. I used to say, “My mission of financial education is first and foremost!” Yes, the mission is tremendously important to me BUT it is not MORE important than me.
Men don’t seem to struggle with this concept as much as women do. The word I hear used most often by women regarding this statement is “selfish.”
Why is this such an issue for so many women?
In my opinion, we are so used to putting everyone first – our children, our husbands or partners, our parents, our job or business – that many of us have become accustomed to taking a back seat. Some actually brag and are proud of how exhausted they are. They’re exhausted because catering to those you love, without catering to yourself, drains you of energy instead of giving you energy. And that is not empowering, inspiring or healthy.
It’s easy to lose track of who you really are when day in and day out your living your life according to everyone’s else’s dreams, visions, wants and needs.
The bottom line is that in order to best serve others, you have to first serve yourself.
Think of a time when you were really happy. You felt free and full of life.
What were you doing?
How were you feeling?
Were you more productive?
More fun to be around?
Willing to help others?
Did things seem to happen effortlessly?
This is you being all of you and making you most important.
So what does all this mean to you?
Of course I’m going to link this to your own financial education and, more importantly, your financial transformation. Are you taking the time you need every day – for you, the most important person – to move towards your financial dreams? Are you putting yourself first… some of the time? It’s common knowledge that the healthier you are in mind, body and spirit, the more effective and productive you are… in all the roles that you choose to play. I’m sure you’ve heard the announcement on board an airplane, “Please be sure to put on your oxygen mask first before assisting others.” You take care of you, so that you can better take care of others.