Many people don’t realize that they have a fear of success. For the longest, I thought to myself:
“Why would I fear success when success is my most desirable goal? What kind of crazy person has a fear of success?”
There are plenty of people who have a fear of success. I didn’t realize that I had issues with this until I noticed that there were certain things that I wouldn’t do and I couldn’t figure out why. What was/is holding me back? Sometimes people fear success because they don’t know if they can live up to their achievements. Self-sabotaging behavior will usually occur when we have this problem. It can be defined as procrastination, a lack of motivation, etc.
How do you know you have a fear of success or self-sabotage issues?
Sometimes we will look at someone as being lazy when they have a problem with a fear of success. They will talk about the many things that they want to do with their life. They may have planned everything out and started on their journey, but instead of doing something about it they waste time surfing the net, watching TV or whatever else they can find to waste time. Being “all talk-no action” is a major problem that must be resolved.
Not trying and focusing on the negative is self-sabotaging behavior. This also leads to a fear of failure which is a major topic for another article.
Procrastinating and wasting time on activities that don’t help you achieve your goals is also a sign of self-sabotage. It’s very easy to stay busy with “life”, but if you don’t recognize this issue, “life” will pass you by.
All means of self-sabotage provides an excuse for you if you don’t live up to your own expectations. Instead of facing the fear that we may not be good enough, smart enough, etc.we can blame it on something minor like a lack of time. In order to correct an issue, we need to recognize that the issue exists.
How do we overcome a fear of success?
- Figure out why you have a fear of success – Take a look at your past experiences and how they affected your outlook on life or confidence in your own ability to succeed.
- Failure is your friend – Don’t be afraid to try something new. If you fail, learn from the experience and don’t repeat the same mistakes. How many times did we fall down as a toddler before we were able to walk?
- Self-competition – Don’t beat yourself up if you haven’t achieved the “success” of your peers. Many times what we see is not reality. You may be better off than the person looking like they have it all, but are so deep in debt it’s crazy. Make an effort to push yourself to the next level. If you are a competitive person by nature it’s crucial not to beat yourself up over defeat. Use the “defeat” to push yourself harder.
- Think Positive – This is a reoccurring theme here. Positive thought will outweigh all negative circumstances you may experience.